The Art of Noticing
All of you are perfect just as you are and you could use a little improvement.” – Shunryu Suzuki Roshi
Once you decide not to throw your hands in the air and accept that you just are the way you are with all your harmful stories of lack and monsters that keep you petrified; once you stop believing that your psyche and body are these mysterious things outside your influence, with you being relegated to useless railing against them; when instead you decide to get curious, to get to know how you work and where there might be space to breathe and gently shift, that is when the art of noticing becomes important.
Noticing is a gentle art, full of loving curiosity. Hm, it says, interesting. It reserves judgment, instead tracking behaviors and counting clues. It doesn’t construct a story out of what it finds, neither a story of lack, nor one of heroic effort, all it does is observe and note, for some future date when your internal scientist is ready to look at all the data and form a hypothesis.
It takes practice and patience. See if for a few minutes a day you can switch from judgement to noticing, from “What an idiot” to “Hm, interesting.”